Unrealistically Human

May 9, 2012 — 6 Comments

Meet my newest pal, Trevor DeVage. I met this guy while on his sabbatical here in Nashville. He and I hit it off immediately. This is a guest post by Trevor. Follow him on Twitter. This blog is to-the-point, so buckle up.

I just want to scream at the top of my lungs, but I don’t even have the energy for that right now. I am tired of having to put on the face because the “church” can’t handle reality. We read about it in scripture and are thankful that they are all just as messed up as we are. But the moment we become human too, people freak. They can’t handle it. They want pretty and perfect, yet what they say is they want real and authentic.

I wish the church could handle real and authentic.

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You know what real and authentic gets you as a pastor…labeled.

He’s a rebel.

He’s angry.

He’s too edgy.

He’s married to a beautiful woman who should wear a burlap sack.

He’s not the total package.

He’s a jerk.

He’s prideful and arrogant.

He’s entitled.

He’s not lead pastor material.

He’s not…fill in the blank.

What we want is not what Jesus redeemed. What we want is something not realistic for any human being. I am wearied of people trying to cram other people into these labels and boxes. It’s as if you have to stay there and if you don’t well then you are not ministry material.

I wonder…was Moses ministry material?

I wonder…was David ministry material?

I wonder…was Paul ministry material?

I wonder…was Adam ministry material?

I wonder…was Abraham ministry material?

I wonder…was Samson ministry material?

I wonder…was Peter ministry material?

These men were liars, adulterers, murderers, prideful, arrogant, unloving, angry individuals…who the last time I checked were all deemed qualified for ministry. We love to say that God chooses imperfect people to carry out his will. But what our actions state is that we want God to give us perfect people to run our churches so we can land blast them when they are actually what they were created to be…HUMAN!

So may we become people who will make continual allowances for being what we were created to be. May we be people who will not hold humans to inhuman expectations. And may we realize that we are all in the same boat no matter the pedestal or platform that we elevate people to.

May we be HUMAN!

Discussion Question:
In what ways do you handle those around you in their “humanness”?

 

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  • Ken Johnson

    I agree that way too many church members judge everyone else for their conduct and themselves for their intentions. That being said I don’t think that being human means we don’t have the right to expect our ministry leaders to not lie, commit adultery, or to murder someone. We as Christians need to allow human error and forgive, but still hold accountable our Pastors and leaders.  

    • mattwade

      Ken, I do agree that accountability is key. However, many approach accountability with a spirit of condemnation and judgment. We must find a way to find the line between the two and love people from that perspective. 

      You are spot on with accountability.

      Can you share with us a couple of ways in which we can help hold leaders accountable without making them feel judged? 

    • Trevor DeVage

      Ken could not agree more. Accountability is key. However, even with it we tend to cast away with little restoration. I have great accountability around me. I think the thing that has attributed to all this is that we have created more of a rock star persona that we thrust upon our church leaders which adds pressure to be superhuman. But I agree, the greatest falls usually come when there is little accountability. Great conversation.

  • Ken Johnson

    As a lay Christian we should always be looking to forgive and restore honor when a minister errs. I believe that accountability should be decided by the ministry team of associate Pastors, elders, etc… When the authorities of the ministry decide that action is needed then I would support it. I would hope that the authorities would restore the minister if it is possible, and I would also hope that the congregation would respect their decision. We have way too many in the army of God that wants to shoot its wounded soldiers. It takes a maturity that some have not yet reached to sit under a minister that they believe has disqualified himself. They don’t realize that the callings of God are without repentance!! There are many Bible examples of men who did awsome things for God AFTER they did something that would have gotten them thrown out of most churches.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1404768795 Peter Gilson

    Speak it my friend! Running into some of this myself lately! Great read!

    • mattwade

      Peter, I am glad you enjoyed this!